May 20, 2012 - Uncategorized    No Comments

Novel Writing Clinic On Its Way

Lately I’ve been taking many of my self-published writer friends up on their offers of free first chapters/sections via Kindle.

I am impressed by the amount of talent out there. However, reading through many self-published novels – even only the first 10 to 30 pages – I’m also struck by the TGW’s.

What are TGW’s? TGW is an acronym for Things Gone Wrong. TGR’s – you guessed it – are the opposite: Things Gone Right.

What TGW’s have I noticed among the self-pubbed novels I’ve read? Well, in the two novels I perused yesterday, I encountered these:

- In one novel, the writer made the heroine snarky and unlikeable.
- In the second novel, the writer swung wildly from past to present tense, and was a mind reader (knew what “everyone” the heroine knows thinks about her).

I thought about writing a post addressing these issues. Then I thought: Why not do more? Why not start at the beginning and build a step-by-step checklist to help writers bulletproof – avoid rookie mistakes in – their novels?

Because in writing, everything builds on everything else. Besides, that would be the most orderly way of presenting this information – and the most accessible to writers who will use this blog as a resource.

So, here’s announcing my online “novel writing clinic and pre-pub checklist” – a series of posts in which I will present some helpful information that will enable newbie writers to polish their diamonds just a little brighter before displaying them to the world.

Coming soon: Watch for the first post in this series: Novel Writing Clinic: Start with a One-sheet

May 18, 2012 - Uncategorized    No Comments

Dad Didn’t Swear

As June approaches, I pass by stacks of Father’s Day cards in the stores, and it always saddens me a little that I can no longer send my Dad a card. He passed away in 2006, and I think of him every day.

Of late, one thing I keep recalling about Dad is this: Dad didn’t swear.

I’m sure my father knew a few choice swear words. He’d been a soldier during wartime. He knew how to shoot to kill. He’d made his own way, successfully, in the world. He was a man’s man – six feet tall and brawny.

I don’t say Dad didn’t let loose with expressions of exasperation now and again. “Darn it!” or the like. But there was none of the language that Hollywood screenwriters today apparently believe defines a streetwise tough guy.

These days, for heaven’s sake, it’s not uncommon for kids in kindergarten – kids from “nice” neighborhoods, I might add – to swear like troopers. Nobody bats an eye (although Moms trying to do the right thing generally inform their progeny to chill).

I’m increasingly revisiting the notion that it’s “cool” or that, even under provocation, it’s okay to lower language standards. Looking back, I see that Dad’s self-restraint was one of the ways he showed respect for those he held dear. Day after day, he chose to keep our home a swear-free zone – just as in all other aspects of parenting he made every effort to make the best choices.

Well, if there were a postage stamp to Heaven, I’d know where to send a card this Father’s Day.

Dad, Happy Father’s Day!

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May 4, 2012 - Uncategorized    No Comments

Why Should I Care? – Pt. 2

It becomes clear, as we make our way in the world, that there are two kinds of people – those who care about others, and those who don’t.

Most psychologically sound people fall into the “caring” category. Each and every one of us has encountered at least one caring person in our lives who made a difference – had the right words of comfort and encouragement when we were down, gave us sound advice and mentoring at a critical time, or even took action to help us pass the course, or win the contest, or get the job. Most of us have had multiple experiences of this kind of caring.

Contrast the lovely people who enhance our lives with those who lack the empathy gene - the folks who think only of their own interests – of “what’s in it for me” – and who, worst case, coldly exploit others. This ol’ world being what it is, each of us has – sadly - bumped up against these characters also.

Personally, my most unfavorite folks are exploitive people who have learned to put on a false appearance of caring. Sooner or later, their true natures are inevitably exposed, and if we’ve fallen for the “act,” needless to say, we’re left jarred. I haven’t often had this experience, but every encounter with such folks is one too many.

Why should we care? Because human beings are meant to be part of a community, and caring is the glue that holds us together.

Why should we care? Because families, communities and nations that have a culture of caring engender beautiful outcomes. If you don’t believe me, take a look at families, communities and nations which have failed to create a culture of caring and make a comparison.

So what role can each of us, individually, play in creating a culture of caring? Looking at all the need in the world, it’s easy to be overwhelmed. That’s why it’s important to keep in mind that every caring gesture, no matter how small, does help. Each small thing we do does tip the scales. A kindly smile can make someone’s day. A small donation, added to other small donations, can fund an operation to change a child’s life for the better. An hour or two of volunteer work, combined with that of other like-minded folks, can make a public place cleaner and more beautiful for a whole community to enjoy.

Certainly we can’t go through life attending to everyone’s needs. But we can in our areas of responsibility – family, school, job, community – find ways to make a positive difference. And we can select at least one favorite cause and do our best to help it succeed.

As for the rest, the very least we can do is to sincerely wish others well, while we help those we can help to the extent that we can. As for the non-carers among us, they might at least take to heart the first precept of the Hippocratic Oath (the oath that defines medical ethics): “First, do no harm.”

Photo by Hamish Darby via Flickr

 

May 1, 2012 - Uncategorized    No Comments

Why Should I Care?

Life is a mystery wrapped in an enigma. Why are we here? How are we supposed to conduct ourselves? Where are the guidelines?

People have been pondering these questions since time immemorial, so answers, of course, abound. Sometimes they’re right. Sometimes they’re wrong.

Let’s look at some of the wrong answers:

In the Mayan culture, it was “right” to ceremonially torture and slay sacrificial victims. In 17th century Europe, it was “right” to burn religious dissidents to death at the stake. Within our own span of memory, Germany’s Nazi party cold-bloodedly planned and executed genocide and “ethnic cleansing“ in Germany and conquered territories on a massive scale.

We know little about how the Mayans evolved their brutal religious beliefs; we know more about the rise of totalitarian regimes in 17th century and 20th century Europe . In the European instances, dictators rose to power and strove to guard their control of power ruthlessly.

The dictionary definition of ruthless is: “having no compassion or pity; merciless.”

Which brings me to the point: all right-thinking people today acknowledge the immorality of the Mayan’s sacrificial practices, of 17th century execution methods, of the unspeakable brutalities of the Nazi regime.

Why should we care? Why specifically should we care about what happens to other people? Because, as human beings we are not islands unto ourselves. Not one of us would survive our infancies without caring and compassion around us. We are born completely helpless, after all.

So, from the moment we begin to exist, we continue to exist only because at least one other person cares. Our very existences underscore how important it is to nurture compassion, and empathy – how important it is to care.

(to be continued – next blog post)

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Apr 18, 2012 - Uncategorized    No Comments

For Shoppers Anonymity Trumps Celebrity

 

Well-placed lighting is lovely.

I’ve loved shopping from the time I could toddle down a display aisle.  It’s not the purchases I enjoy so much as the feast for the senses that comprises a shopping trip to any well-run retail enterprise – whether the local farmer’s market or the biggest mall in the country.

Retail display designers are vastly underappreciated - from the folks who stack fresh apples to gleam so enticingly in the sunlight, to jewelers in the mall who train track lights to blaze on sparkly diamonds. With their mastery of seasonal displays, and their skilful use of color, humor and resonance, sales folks have made the shopping experience truly fun for all of us.

Part of the joy of shopping, for me anyway, is the almost zen sort of relaxation that comes from trekking around, whether with myself or with a friend – not looking for anything in particular, just daydreaming and enjoying the walk, enjoying the displays and people watching, and making those occasional wonderful discoveries or “finds.”

Anonymity is an important part of that. All shoppers are important to sellers – which is good. It means shoppers are welcomed and made to feel at home. You don’t have to be a celebrity to be treated well.

In fact, shopping is one area where, if you are a celebrity, I think you get shortchanged.

Think what it must be like to be unable to wander into a toy store, a clothing boutique, or the corner drugstore without attracting media attention.

There are times I think it must be fun to own a home on the Riviera and beach home in Malibu, as celebrities can afford to do. But I’ll bet one thing celebrities must miss a whole lot is ordinary walk-through-the-mall, windowshop with a friend, stop for coffee and then continue, peruse what’s new, find something perfect for yourself, your home or for a friend or loved one type shopping.

Eat your hearts out, A-listers!

Image: maveric2003 via flickr.com

 

 

Feb 18, 2012 - Uncategorized    No Comments

How to Stay Fresh: Creativity and Innovation Do Make a Difference

Mmmm - it's not just plain vanilla!

On Valentine’s Day, my sweetie took me to a fave restaurant we’ve been going to for longer than I care to remember. It’s an hour’s plus drive from our home, so we usually trek there just once a year or so.

The place is famous for a certain family-style dinner it offers. Cass and I ordered the dinner, enjoyed it, and trekked back home. It was a nice outing – and therein lies the problem. Not for Cass and I, but for the restaurant.

The main course was great. The side dishes were good.  So what was missing? One thing – the element of surprise, of novelty, of something new.

Now, I would have been disappointed if I went to this place and it was totally made over. But there were probably 100 areas where this restaurant could have tweaked something to make it a little different. Maybe offered the main dish bbq’d or with a French sauce. I dunno. Something.

Or they could have updated the decor, which is homey and cozy (nice), but seems stuck in the ’50′s in some way (meh) I don’t mean they need to totally redecorate, but why not change or update one or two elements?

There’s something in human nature that enjoys same old, same old. But there’s something else that longs for novely, excitement, a departure – for something sweeter, more colorful, zingier. Methinks restaurants and other businesses that have found a safe formula need to keep that in mind. The tried and true is great. But so are a few nice surprises now and then.

 

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Feb 17, 2012 - Uncategorized    No Comments

When Anger Is Unwise (or, Time for Reflection)

Just a reflection

For the last two weeks, a cardinal keeps trying to fly through my rec room window. And by “fly through,” I mean he head butts the glass beak-first, wings spread-eagled. Attack mode, baby!
Having never seen a bird do this before, I was mystified. And, while I hoped Red wasn’t going to hurt himself, I selfishly enjoyed seeing his amazing plumage window-close.
A friend recently took away some of the mystery behind my scarlet dive bomber. He explained to me that my cardinal is just being territorial. He sees his reflection in the glass, and tries to chase the “other bird” away.
Wow. This cute angry little guy is busting his chops (almost literally) on an issue that’s super important to him (ownership of his territory) and, in reality, he already owns his territory. He’s fighting a phantom. He’s fighting himself.
Well, I can’t send my scarlet feathered friend to a therapist. He’ll have to figure it out for himself. But here’s someone’s life story wrapped up in a bird’s eye view. Certainly I can look back on times I got my own feathers all in a kerfluffle about what turned out to be . . . nothing. Either the issue wasn’t important, or I misunderstood, or whatever was bothering me just went away.
I hope Red doesn’t hurt himself, he seems to be doing just fine. And I’ll keep him in mind next time I’m tempted to get my feathers in a ruffle. It’s just a reflection.
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Feb 6, 2012 - Uncategorized    No Comments

What Horse Whisperers Know

 In the last few weeks, I’ve become fascinated by horses. Wanting to learn more about these wonderful animals, I read Chris Irwin’s Horses Don’t Lie. Then Buck Brannaman’s The Faraway Horses. (Buck Brannaman is the model for the hero in Nicholas Evans’s The Horse Whisperer.) I also read Allan J. Hamilton’s Zen Horse, Zen Mind.

I will never own a horse. I don’t have the time you need to invest in the human/horse relationhip. And I probably won’t ride very much. If I do, it will be at one of those places that rent gentle horses for weekend visitors to ride. But I think it’s safe to say, the more I learn about horses, the more I love them.

Horses are strong and beautiful.  And they can make us better than wherever it is we are. People who work around horses well develop a sensitivity and a second language that is intuitive; they learn to observe and pick up cues and to be responsive. They learn to live in the present moment – which is all that matters to a horse. That means that people who work with horses enhance their connectedness to the natural world.

The lesson all enlightened horsemasters seem to impart is simple: horses don’t need to be ”broken” or bribed; horses want to work with you. Horses need to respect you, but respect and kindness go hand in hand. You just need to learn how to communicate with these beautiful animals in language that they understand; you need to develop a relationship with them that honors works the way their minds work.

There are many human spheres outside the horse circuit where people could benefit from the wisdom of horse whisperers.

Image courtesy of Adrian Parnham 


Feb 5, 2012 - Uncategorized    No Comments

Five Things that I Like that No One Else Does (Probably)

Spoiler warning: this is an eclectic list that ranges from reading matter to occupational hazards to fashion forays.Okay, forewarned, here you are – five things I like that no one else does (probably):A History of the English Language(book) by Alfred C. Baugh. Had to purchase, read and absorb this weighty tome for an advanced class in, yes, the History of the English Language as an undergrad. As Peter Erdmann, of the Technische University in Berlin says, “‘Baugh and Cable’s classic is still an absolute must for everyone interested in the development of English in its socio-historical context.”On the mark, Herr Professor! But what the book also reinforced for me was that the language is alive and evolving even as we, ahem, speak.It has influenced me to be open to inventiveness in communication – in myself and others. Dean Koontz, I mean you. Have caught him making up a word or two in his latest novels. But he’s in good company. Shakespeare used to do

the same thing. (Six hundred words in Hamlethad never been recorded in print before.)Writing speeches – yes, I do enjoy writing speeches, which I have – at times – actually done for a living. Less so these days as I am concentrating on creative writing. No, none of the obvious jokes there, please.

Many communicators avoid writing speeches or even letting their employers know they are capable of same. I do find it a pleasure. But certain factors have to be in place to make speechwriting a pleasure.

First, the client needs to know what he basically wants to say. The speechwriter’s job is to help the client express his thoughts as eloquently and as pursuasively as possible. But it is not the speechwriter’s job to figure out what the company’s or nation’s or department’s or city’s strategy should be. (Oh, I’ll do that too, but you need to hike the pay grade.)

Second, the client’s chief of staff needs to secure enough time for the writer to be able to 1) meet with the client, get a feel for how he expresses himself overall, his personality, and what style of language he will find comfortable, 2) conduct follow up meetings mid-draft, 3) rehearse with the speaker.

Third, same chief of staff needs to control the politics of the sitch. Many staffers don’t understand speechwriting and speechwriters. Sometimes staffers erroneously feel that face time with the Big Boss is some sort of immense privilege that will lead to who knows what marvelous bennies for the speechwriter. (It isn’t and it won’t, but that needs to be explained to the all concerned.)

Okay, enough of the communication world, onto fashion – or the lack thereof:

Cotton chenille robes – the old-fashioned kind, made of cotton, not microfiber or acrylic or recycled tires, or whatever it is robes are made of these days. These are the kind Mom used to wear - floor-length, breathable, cozy and warm. Pair them up with fuzzy slippers, a cup of hot cocoa and a good book, and you’re all set of a winter evening. 

Genuine cotton chenille robes are almost impossible to find today. That’s because sleepwear manufacturers think we women all either want to look like Lolita (yes, those shortie silk robes really keep a chill off) or the abominable snowman (plenty of fake fiber fuzzy robes out there. The problem with artificial fibers is that they don’t breathe.)

Every once in a while some manufacturer somehow forgets the Lolita/Abominable Snowman guidelines, and actually makes genuine floor-length cotton chenille robes available. I keep my eyes open.

 Skirts - walking through the mall the other day, it occurred to me that skirts are out of control. The choices today are mind-boggling – from minis to ankle-length and anywhere in-between. No wonder so many women opt for slacks and jeans. It’s simpler than pulling a look together with the I-Didn’t-Have-Enough-Fabric-to-Complete-This bum skimmer or the I-Am-a-Grandma ankle lengther.

I love skirts. They’re comfortable and feminine. But designers have sort of made them obsolete for now. Bring back “A Look” please – an agreed-upon length, silhouette(s), style. In the meantime, I’ll stick to my slacks.

And, finally, let’s talk about, well, talking:

Coffee klatches – I’m not quite sure I even know what these are, but I like them, by golly. Like the chenille robes, they have a lovely old-fashioned sound to them. Per the Free Dictionary, a Coffee Klatch is a ”casual social gathering for coffee and conversation.” The phrase seems to have sprung up and had its heyday around the time the suburbs first saw the light of day – in the fifties.

I guess I conduct my own modern-day version of the coffee klatch; I meet with various groups of friends regularly for lunch. In the fifties, most women didn’t work outside the home, so midmorning or midafternoon meetings were possible.

In my mind, those coffee klatches were gatherings of friends who offered mutual support – no agenda except to share coffee and conversation. Now, I’m sure that the women of the fifties who actually participated in these mystical coffee clatches would quickly demystify the event for me. But, in my mind, it still seems like a cool idea – especially for young moms who stay home with their children. In our super focused society, we might be in constant contact with each other via text messaging and email, but why not take a breather once in a while, turn off the iPhones, and share fellowship the old-fashioned way?

If you’ve stayed with this post to the end, thanks for reading, and I invite you to please share in the comments section your fave things that no one else likes. Who knows? You might find a kindred spirit or two.

Image courtesy of Stepheye.


Feb 4, 2012 - Uncategorized    No Comments

My Favorite Things (Tra La!)

You can tell a lot about a person by having them list their favorite things. Remember Julie Andrews in The Sound of Music? The kids she was newly assigned taking care of knew she was okay once she started singing, no less, about her  favorite things – I recall “raindrops on roses” and “Whiskers on kittens.” And  who can forget Hannibal lecter’s main course with a favorite side dish of  “chianti and fava beans.” Ugh. Anyone who mixes chianti with fava beans – well,  you know they’re up to no good.


My favorite things – and I am going to stick with “things” versus animate  objects (family, friends, horses, dogs and cats – which about comprises the list  of my favorite animate objects anyway), are as follows:

My Hamilton Beach Electric Percolator – I can hear the groans from coffee  purists, but let me tell you. I love the aggressive coffee action of a  percolator. Those beans are getting boiled! None of this lame  drip, drip, drip action. And the aroma of fresh brewed coffee always reminds me of vacations and resorts. This is probably unique to me. My family were tea drinkers, so the only time I did smell fresh perked coffee as a child was on vacation. Anyway, percolators are like those plug-in aroma products for disseminating  a scent. And what more alluring scent can you ask for in the morning than the smell of fresh-brewed coffee?

 

Columbian coffee – Juan Valdez is right. It is the best.

Butter – I love this stuff. But I only allow myself a pat now and then. Extra virgin olive oil is heart healthier. I get my butter fix at restaurants, sometimes at events or friends houses. So butter, to me, has become associated with good times.

Fruit smoothies with strawberries and blueberries – When I don’t have fresh fruit, I make them with freeze-dried strawberries and blueberries which I buy from nuts.com. I add yogurt and mix in whatever else I feel like. Pineapple or banana are good. Then I add pineapple, grape or apple juice – a third of a cup or so – and yogurt. Whip this up, and you’ll wonder where it’s been all your life.

My Cuisinart Smart Stick – Superb for whipping up the aforementioned fruit smoothies. Also great for transforming unappealing veggies into “creamed” veggie soups which are appealing. Super easy to clean. Got mine a year ago and, like Scarlett O’Hara, I will never be hungry (for delicious Cuisinarted goodies) again.

Books – When I was a bespectacled child who spent too much time reading, my Dad asked me with sweet fatherly concern, “Why do you read so much?” “Because my books are my friends,” I said, not pathetically, but as a sincere statement. Is that not the ultimate geeky cuteness? And I still feel that way. Some of the many books I’ve encountered over the years have been casual friends (helped pass  the time but offered negligible nourishment for the mind/soul); some have been steadfast and true (wouldn’t be without them); others – very few – have been a waste of time (sorry to say, but some books aren’t worth the paper they’re printed on).

My Kindle 3 – A library, potentially of a thousand or more volumes, in a small thin  rectangular object? It’s like a Ray Bradbury magical fantasy (a good one) come true. Free classics? Come to Mama! Library lending enabled? Yes, yes, yes! Text-to-speech? 3-G connectedness? Fetch me my smelling salts, Fannie, for I am overwhelmed. Best reading invention ever. – My Kindle Fire – Continues the Kindle 3 goodness and complements it. Lovely color images. Wowsa! Interet capability? Apps? I haven’t finished exploring Kindle Fire yet, but this is a friendship that will last. At $199 – bargain!

My “special” jeans – Ladies, you know what I’m talking about. As we fight The Battle – no, not against good and evil – the Other battle – there is always that one loyal pair of jeans, so hard to find, that sort of hides the Christmastime Devil-may-care-about-calories weight gain. (Hmm, I probably should have listed this just after “Butter.”) – My PC – They are everywhere now, personal computers, but they are not to be taken for granted, these amazing news deliverers, information storers and sharers, and social connectors. We live in an age of technological miracles, and the PC is in the top ten of that list.

Google – Fantastic search engine. (See PC above.)

Well, I’ve finished my coffee, and am off to make a smoothie and then fire up my Kindle and PC to read/check the news. Not sure what my list reveals about me. Oh, wait, I do seem to like coffee, butter, whipped fruit, slimming jeans, information and books.

No, don’t go away. Stop yawning. I haven’t finished my list of favorite things. Stay tuned. More in a future post. Got to check out the whiskers on some kittens. Maybe I can set this to music? Tra-la!

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